18. Using Others

June 14, 2025

Throughout my relationship with Oksana since 2011, she has attempted on several occasions to provoke me into “attacking” her adversaries for her. The tactics are manipulative and have four distinct stages. I’ll label the adversary as the person she wants to hurt, and the victim as the person she uses to hurt the adversary.

First, she exaggerated the initial conflict with the adversary to gain sympathy and create the impression that she was helpless toward the victim.

Next, she moved to assassinate the character of her adversary. She used precise numbers and legal status to add credibility to her claim. For instance, she would say a specific amount of money from a specific account was involved, or that her adversary had been arrested for a specific reason, had a specific license, degree, etc. That information would be factual, so they are inherently more believable than opinion-based lies. Oksana counted on her victims NOT fact-checking her. Oksana wanted to portray that her adversary was harmful to many others as well.

Then, she escalated the scale of conflict. She would falsely claim loss, abuse, and that her safety was at risk for her victim. She would claim that her future was ruined, she would be homeless and would even have to take her own life unless the adversary was stopped.

Finally, she compels her victim to act against her adversary. She makes false promises about relationships and then accuses the victim of being a coward, weak, uncaring, greedy, helping others but not her, etc., to expedite results.

It is worth noting that Oksana chooses men with low self-esteem and/or low self-worth as her victims. Look at her previous two husbands…neither was in a good place in their lives when initially meeting Oksana. Same for me in 2011. I was going through divorce, a failed company with pending bankruptcy. Now look at her current boyfriend, Gregg Paris. He’s unaccomplished, financially unstable, and I’ll let the reader decide if he is good looking.

Is this husband material? No. Disposable victim material? Absolutely. Gregg worships her. He would do anything for her. That is admirable, but how far would he go if she pushed him? We know she’s gone on dates with other guys while being with him. She’s trying to make him jealous…trying to make him do more. Knowing Oksana, she’s likely pushing him…she is calling him a coward, has nothing to offer, etc. I’ve heard that before. Sane people do not meddle in someone else’s divorce, but Gregg has chosen to threaten me in text messages. Consider his logic: I have 50 more pounds of muscle than him. I carry a firearm. I could potentially create a lot of legal and financial problems for him, but he chooses to slander me online and threaten me.

Gregg was previously a ghost on social media, but now he’s alive and slandering Fore Innovations, that fired him over two years ago. (not by me, btw) Sane people would have moved on, but he’s chosen to open himself up to a lawsuit by slandering a company, and a brand.

Slandering a former employer and instigating conflict with me does not benefit him. He’s become Oksana’s warrior and meddles where he shouldn’t. How far will he go? How far can Oksana push him?

Oksana regularly posts about Nikki stealing her inheritance. Here’s a potential scenario: What if the owners of Fore Innovations were to die? What if I die as well? Oksana and I are still legally married. Does Oksana think this situation is potentially beneficial to her? Oksana is not patient, and Gregg is not logical.

Should I be concerned?